10. Continuing to Work with Hopelessness
Continuing with my series addressing questions that are common today: There are things we can do to make life better, but it is very challenging to actually do something different when we are in the midst of problems. How do you help your clients when they are feeling hopeless?
19. More on Change is Possible
This seems obvious; however, I need to say it: Change can’t and won’t happen unless and until we do something different. The challenge is that we often want change, but we don’t want to do anything different to contribute to facilitating change. People tend to want to keep doing what is familiar and comfortable and often don’t want to let go of old patterns and responses.
21. Identifying Where to Focus to Make Changes
Today, I would like to share ways to identify where to focus your attention to help make changes to improve your life, mental health, and sense of well-being.
22. The General Cause of People's Problems and How We Get Stuck in Them
When a new client comes in to see me for their first session, I ask what problems bring them to therapy and how they hope to benefit from counseling. They share their problems and often state that their goal for counseling is to know why they are the way they are.
23. Resolving Unwanted Feelings
Many forms of counseling attempt to try to figure out where problems originated and understand why we feel what we do, which generally keeps us stuck rehashing and reliving our past difficulties, problems, and traumas. It is not very beneficial to focus our attention on what’s wrong with us and explore how we became broken. We just make up another story about ourselves and believe it is true.