4. Living Our Full Potential
How do we get back on track and live our full potential? We must heal the wounds of our unmet needs, access our inner unique qualities and strengths, and make choices from that place.
7. Change Is an Inside Job!
My great mentor, Dr. Milton Erickson, taught ways to help generate change through interrupting peoples’ Attempted Solutions. This allowed for shifting unwanted patterns to create new and better choices.
12. Creating Change Using Our Inner Resources
Continuing with the concept that change comes from accessing and utilizing our own inner resources to find resolution to our problems and move toward our goals, I will share ways to put this to practice so that you can create changes you want in your life.
18. Change is Possible
I want you to know that it is possible to change unwanted thoughts, feelings, behaviors and beliefs, creating choices to live the life you desire. For lasting change, we need to work with underlying unconscious patterns and programs we experience as unwanted feelings that repeatedly recreate our problems. Outdated and ineffective old tapes from our childhood are playing in our head, directing our thoughts and controlling our experiences.
19. More on Change is Possible
This seems obvious; however, I need to say it: Change can’t and won’t happen unless and until we do something different. The challenge is that we often want change, but we don’t want to do anything different to contribute to facilitating change. People tend to want to keep doing what is familiar and comfortable and often don’t want to let go of old patterns and responses.
23. Resolving Unwanted Feelings
Many forms of counseling attempt to try to figure out where problems originated and understand why we feel what we do, which generally keeps us stuck rehashing and reliving our past difficulties, problems, and traumas. It is not very beneficial to focus our attention on what’s wrong with us and explore how we became broken. We just make up another story about ourselves and believe it is true.
24. Creating Success in Our Primary Relationships
A healthy relationship is based on loving and accepting ourselves and our partner fully and unconditionally. It helps both people in the partnership become more and better than they were without their significant other. Joy and happiness are part of a healthy relationship.